Having Baby at Early Age and Now

I often think of how much I changed since having my first child Luka, when I just turned 21, and now, 12 years later, having my toddler Daniella (3 years old) and baby Harry, who will be turning 5 months soon. Thinking back, I can clearly see, I was far too young and not ready for babies at all then. Don’t get me wrong, there is no a smallest bit of me regretting having my first child so early. But today, sitting and thinking back, comparing before and now, I have to admit, life seemed far more difficult back then. I don’t think I was adult enough and it didn’t unfortunately benefit my baby. The only thing that I can assure, is that I loved and love my all 3 children with all my heart.

IMG_2420 (2)_FotorIt’s maybe a bit on the funny side, but in a table below I have compared of how I was feeling with every child of mine and how experience and growing into an adult has changed it all. I now understand, once you are fully grown and ready to be a parent, all just comes out naturally. Therefore parenting is so much easier and much more enjoyable then- no matter how many kids you have. My life with one child when I was 21 years old was much more complicated, than it is now with 3 of them. See it yourselves:

 

1st child – Luka.

I was 21 years old

2nd child – Daniella.

I was 30 years old.

3rd Child – Harry.

I am 33 years old.

Baby Crying

My baby is a little terrorist! She cries, because she wants to annoy me!

Ahh, poor baby. Maybe she is
hungry? Maybe teething? Why is that baby crying for goodness sake?

I just want to cuddle him forever. I feel sad, when my baby is sad and I would do everything to make him feel better.

Breastfeeding

Why do people breastfeed? Yuki!

Breastfeeding makes life easier! No bottles sterilising, no preparing milk at night. Yey, why no one told me this before?

Breastfeeding benefits you and
your baby. It also creates a special relationship between baby and mum.

 Sleepless Nights

Parenting is so tiring! I feel
like a monster- haven’t had proper sleep in ages. I just cannot function.

I’ll try to sleep train my baby.
And I did. Life is not always difficult!

I don’t mind sleepless nights
no more. When baby wakes up at night for his milk, I feel happy getting to spend that extra time with him. These moments are not gonna last forever…

 Baby’s needs

Yeh, I’ll do whatever I have to do, but because I have to, not because I want to. Why did no one tell me, that being a parent is such a difficult job? I just wish I was in that party tonight!

I want the best for my baby. I want her to feel good.

All my money, all my energy,
everything I have goes to my children. It makes me happy sharing all with them. Sleep times, feeding times, all is well organized for baby to feel happy.

 My needs

I don’t get enough sleep, I cannot go out, I cannot hang out with my friends. Life is complicated!

I would like to watch the movie without interrupting in the evening, want to go to the sunbed, hairdresser.

I’ll take care of myself, when I
have time (hairdresser, manicurist, even a dentist are long forgotten right now)

 Leaving child with
grandparents

The best solution I could think of is to leave my baby with grandparents while I have fun myself.

Sometimes, but not often. I do
trust them 100%, but I am so attached to my baby, that those separation moments are really hard to handle.

I will leave my baby with
grandparents time to time, but not because I need to go out, but because it’s important for children and grandparents to enjoy each others company whenever they can.

   Starting solids

As early as 4 months.

Over 5 months old.

Will try to wait until 6 months old.

 my life, my passion

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